“It is just as cowardly to judge an absent person as it is wicked to strike a defenseless one. Only the ignorant and narrow-minded gossip, for they speak of persons instead of things.”
—Lawrence G. Lovasik
A Society is nothing but a bunch of people living together sharing, experiencing, learning, celebrating and JUDGING each other. This is our Indian male-dominant society where a woman is considered weak physically and otherwise. As a matter of fact an eyebrow will always be raised at thought of going out with a guy at night without thinking for a microsecond.
Here women empowerment is nothing but a myth. Women have to be given due respect without being judged in a society to have actual empowerment. However, we see women in metros and big cities working all day long and doing great but who knows are they really happy? What’s their inside story? Apart from that, small city women are in more crises. Life of a woman has always been very tough,
torturous because of evil minds in our society.
Let’s eliminate the male-female part, a woman is human first and can have disabilities. In our society where women have low status, one can imagine the reaction to the birth of a disabled girl child, or even after birth due to some miss happening if she gets disabled, she is perceived as posing a greater burden for the family. May be not in actual but our typical society with stereotype “Beti-Paraya dhan” mentality makes their life tougher. Today a disable woman is CEO in a company then who we are to judge her, to discriminate her and out of concern make opinions about her. Women with disabilities are discriminated against not only by men—whether disabled or not, but also by non-disabled women themselves. She is perceived as one who is unable to perform her traditional roles of wife, mother and home-maker because of her disability, even if she may be able to do so in reality.
For example, a woman with mobility impairment may be perceived as one in need of physical assistance in self-care and grooming, and therefore unable to carry out the domestic tasks that require mobility and physical labor. Negative attitudes and stereotypes about what disabled women can or cannot do, particularly in our society where marriages are the biggest concern for females and are incomplete without it makes them feel more handicap. Many people carry the misconception that because of her physical disability, a woman may not be competent in any sphere and that a physically disabled woman is also unable to think, learn or work.
As a result, many disabled women come to consider themselves as ‘non-persons, with no rights or privileges to claim, no duties or functions to perform, no aim in life to achieve, no aptitudes to consult or fulfill. The families of disabled women tend to be over-protective about them, and prevent them from going out of the house; for fear that they may be exploited in some way because of their disability.
Although well-intentioned, these anxieties can be stifling to women with disabilities. There are superstitions in village communities about the presence of disabled women being inauspicious in community gatherings. This can lead to feelings of isolation, loneliness and low self-esteem in women with disabilities.
Our government needs to promote self-help groups of women with disabilities. This will play a major role in reducing their isolation, providing mutual support, and improving their participation in community life. But this is secondary, First step should be taken by our society and by ourselves to grow up from this sick mentality.
Disabled women with chronic illness suffer from chronic pain and our society makes them to live with chronic depression and fear by throwing tantrums like making opinions about them. Disabled women can also do great things in their life if they are educated and well supported. You will never know what they are facing in their daily life until you walk in their shoes. By simply not judging them we can help them to overcome their fears, prejudices and negative social attitudes and let them explore more opportunities.
Where is India being compared to western countries in every aspect then why can’t our Indian societies be like theirs? Western countries are doing well, somewhere this is also the reason because there, everyone minds their own business, nobody has time to interfere in other’s lives and gossip about them, unlike our society where at dinner table, “Mr. Chadha’s daughter after accident is crippled now who would marry her?” is being discussed or where the ‘padose waali aunties’ are the real WhatsApp world, telling the whole mohalla where someone’s daughter was last seen at and also “last seen with”.
In spite of enjoying the real fudge of life here, people are busy in judging each other.
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